Processing Your Emotions Is Keeping You Stuck 💕
what to do instead 🔎
If you are reading this article, it is for a reason 💞
Take a good hard look at your current reality.
Do you like it? yes or no?
Don’t overcomplicate it. It’s really a yes or no answer.
If you are going into ~ welllll I really love my friends but omg my family life and money life sucks so bad.
It would be safe to say that no, you don’t like your current reality (and that’s ok!!!!).
If you can ✧ ♡ BE HONEST ♡ ✧ about the way you feeeeel ~ at ALL times. You will move more quickly into your upward spiral life
𖦹 𖦹 ✧ ༛༛ 𖦹 𖦹 𖦹 𖦹
Nothing is separated from one another. Everything in your life is connected. If one area of your life is lacking then most likely, you’re not being fully honest about the other areas of your life.
There is this fear among you that if you admit you don’t like something or that your life could be better then it will initiate a chain of awful events where you have to make all of this drastic change and “you’re too busy for that” so you would rather lie to yourself and say everything is fine.
I am here with good news 💕
First off, if you admit and are honest to yourself about where you are in life and you don’t like it ~ you actually will feel a lot better because you’ll finally stop resisting inner truth and there will be a layer of relief that settles in.
The only reason pain arises from being honest with yourself because you make ~ you not being happy with your life ~ into a dramatic story. You make it mean you’re not embodied enough or you’re a fuck up or no one likes you or cue to enter into victim stories.
Second off, admitting to yourself that you don’t like your life allows you to find clarity over what it is you do want instead. And the Universe is ALWAYS open for receiving requests 💌 📫 (and every request is ALWAYS answered!)
The Universe is your personal genie in a bottle 🧞♀️ 🪄 ✧ ✧ ✧ ♡
You can send in UNLIMITED amounts of wishes (:
But if you’re so busy lying to yourself about how you “love your life” (when you actually don’t) then you’ll never actually move into a biggggger upward spiral that is spiraling very fast in the best possible direction.
Where you fuck up is:
You admit to yourself you don’t like your life.
Then you start removing everything….
You break up with your man…
You cut your friend off….
You make a drastic move to another city….
You quit your job…
You do 75 hard 🙄
If you do that ⬆️ you’re still in a mode of blaming outside circumstances for the way you feel. You have yet to fully step into radical responsibility. Radical Responsibility is the fast track to success and happy feelings. If you always remove “things” or people from your life when you don’t feel good ~ you will just run into the same patterns over and over and over again. YES there are times when removal is actually the best case scenario. I am speaking to the overall pattern ⚡️
if you ALWAYS restrict when you don’t feel good, you’re doing it backwards.
Radical Responsibility is the act of being responsible for EVERY SINGLE THING that happens in your life.
And once again, this is where you fall off because you do need to be very regulated to do successfully step into radical responsibility. So you ignore your body and override your feelings and then when you take a look at your life it “feels like too much” because you’re running on burnout!
You blame your man for the way you feel. You blame your children for running you into burnout. You blame your job for hating your life. You blame the aggressive driver for making you nervous.
The hard part about radical responsibility is that a lot of these excuses ⬆️ are actually valid.
It makes sense you don’t feel good because you hate your job.
But the work is actually moving beyond validity.
If you are focused on always being valid then you’re never going to create a life you are head over heels obsessed with.
You can be valid but it won’t help you manifest better patterns and outcomes.
Being valid = being a victim to your 3D reality.
And unfortunately this is not a way to manifest the best life. If it was, then good people would be winning.
Processing Your Emotions = Finding Validity.
Why else would you process your emotions?
To make sense of experiences or people right?
To make sense of why something happened the way it did.
If you approach life moving from: Radical Responsibility….
You won’t actually have to process everything because when you step into fully reading your own patterns then you become solution oriented and you start to move in your own life differently.
You spend so much energy trying to process why Mark ghosted you or why he is being such a fuck boy.
When you could be devoting that same exact energy to figuring out what you feel passionate about, what your desires are, or what type of man you want to call in next 💞
If you can see your negative life experiences as PURELY clarifying experiences then your life will expand very very very quickly.
but the more you try to find the root of everything, the more you try to make sense of fucked up situations….it’s keeping that energy active.
Energy Flows Where Focus Goes 🔎 and once you fully understand this….and see it in action…..it’s easier to only focus on the things you love in life (:
Why You Know Deeply About Yourself ~ But You Don’t Do Anything About It Because:
I do not doubt you know yourself in-depth. You know the cycles you enter. You know what you like and don’t like. You know what you are passionate about. You know your birth chart, human design, and archetypes you possess.
So why are you still living the same life like it’s Ground Hog day?
You’re not fully being honest with the way you feel about people, your own life, experiences that happen to you…
You’re not using your “dislikes” in life to call forth new experiences (you’re stuck in processing mode).
You’re afraid of “being mean” so you make excuses for the people in your life.
When you don’t like someone you make it mean something wrong about you that YOU need to change.
You keep searching for validity and you become a victim to your reality over and over and over again. you keep looking at “what is” and allowing that power over the way you feel.
You’re not taking care of your nervous system + body. So mentally, you know what needs to be done…but your body is stuck in freeze mode…You physically can’t….Your body is exhausted! But you keep telling yourself “you’re fine” (once again….LYING to yourself).
When you start to BE HONEST about the way you feel internally….you will start to feel so much better! And NO ~ a can of worms will not appear IF you are on top of your inner stories. And…you gotta be a master of finding clarity and searching for your own likes 🔎 If you are just naming what you don’t like in your life but then not taking time to get clear over it is you doooo like….then nothing will change. And on top of this you actually have to stay plugged into this new vision (the new vision you gather from your likes in life).
Annnnnnnnnd
You HAVE to take care of your body….
If you’re doing all the internal work and finding clarity but then ignoring your physical body cues….NOTHING will change!
This is why people go into being “so overstimulated” or “they know what they need to change but never make the changes”.
You actually have to rest when you are tired. I know this sounds so obvious but no one actually takes it seriously. You downplay THE WAY YOU FEEL! You consistently lie to yourself!!! You “think” you should have more energy so then when you do become tired you just continue to override it and go go go and then you cry and spiral out when nothing actually shifts in your life!
You enter the
“Why is nothing happening in my world” mode.
You enter the
“I am working so hard for no reward” mode.
You enter the
“Why is it so easier for others” mode.
You spiral and freak out and cry
When all you needed to do all along was…..
FUCKING RESTTTTTTT 🤣
And
alllllllooooooooooooowwwwwwwwiiiiiiiiinnnnnggggggggggggggg
yourself to rest 🤓
Your social battery is on zero but then you go hangout with your friends for brunch.
You’re feeling overstimulated but then you scroll social media…
You’re annoyed that your friend is constantly venting to you, but you constantly make her feel better and respond to all her texts.
You’re so overwhelmed but you text everyone back quickly.
Your body is so sore but then you go to the gym.
Girl bye 🙄 😹
You gotta be honest about the way you feel and then apply a solution.
You’re overstimulated? Ok go meditate or cuddle with your dog.
Your social battery is on zero? STAY HOME!
It all sounds so simple eh? It’s meant to be simple (:
If you become a master of self and reading your body’s signals…. you’ve cracked your own code.
Creating your obsession worthy, head over heels, consistent upward spiral life….
♥︎ ♥︎ Is actually SO much easier than you realize ❥ ❥ ❥ ❥
The only reason it feels hard is because…you’re making it hard and not being honest with the way you feel at all times.
Again, why you do this is because you think that if you’re honest with the way you feel it will open Pandora’s box or you won’t know what “to do with it” once you are honest.
I am tellin ya right now…if you just rest when you are tired 🤣 you will solve 80% of your problems.
If you just use your negative life experiences as clarifying experiences….put in requests 💌 📫 to the Universe and stay PLUGGED IN 🔌 to the visions you want to manifest instead of “what is”……you will actually quickly step into a more successful, fun, beautiful, feel good life (:
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In love and upwarddd spiiiirrraallllllsssss,
SAMMi
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So on point 🔨🔨🔨🔨