I don’t really believe in Nervous System Regulation anymore…

here I go talking more shit lol

A personal story about why I don’t believe in traditional self help in the way where this version of self help implies you have to drastically overturn your life to be in alignment. When I first got into the self help world I was taught to shed the things that no longer served me (😒). And because of that “teaching” alone, I created so many unnecessary tower moments for myself which really fucked up my nervous system. I always tried to shed the things that no longer served me… and all it did for me was cause drama and chaos 🌪️

I was in a relationship that was 100% not for me.

I am someone who does struggle with anxiety and typically found *confrontation* the scariest thing ever. I knew I was in an awful relationship but at the same time I really just didn’t want to deal with the whole breaking up part and having to change my entire life. Look, I am a lazy girl at heart. Give me all the cheat codes to life 😁 and I feel like I have really figured out the *cheat codes* 🙂‍↕️

I believe in short cuts lol.

I believe there is always an easier way to go about *shifting* your life.

I believe it NEVER has to be hard.

and I have been condemned for this. I have been made to feel like I am stupid or an idiot. I have had many online creators use my content as a laughing grounds to make their own content off of and talk about why what I teach is so wrong or problematic.

Anyways,

Let me tell you WHY I believe in what I believe 🌀 (which is YOU have the ability to ALWAYS create upward spirals in your life DESPITE circumstanes + reality).

Ok so I was in an awful relationship (i know many of you can relate). I don’t feel like getting into the *whys* of why it was so bad.

All my friends hated him, I knew he wasn’t it, but also my anxiety made me too afraid to actually confront anything to change my circumstance.

And because I AM a lazy girl at heart….and do want to figure out the easiest way to go about things….through this experience ~ it showed me how I can NOW live my life and always get what I want 🍭

Instead of telling him what he was doing wrong.

Instead of confronting him and telling him I didn’t want to be here any longer.

Instead of making some sort of backup plan for if or when we broke up what I would do…

I decided to go all in on my personal happiness DESPITE “him” and our awful relationship.

I made plans and bought a ticket to go to Desert Hearts (a festival 🧚‍♀️) with my best friend at the time.

I started listening to Abraham Hicks every morning to shift my energy and start my day feeling really good! It was one of her morning rampage meditations and I would play it in the car while I drove to work and it would seriously shift me!!!! I played it on repeat lol.

I started connecting more with people online and decided to get super into my instagram + building a website and start making money from my soul gifts.

(to me, this was about taking the energy off of *him* and plugging it into my true desires).

What first happened was in our 4 years of being together the last 6 months of our relationship was SOOOO GOOD (EXACTLY the same time I started only focusing on my happiness) ~ our relationship became the best it had EVER been. He was showing up for me, surprising me with gifts, we shared a very sweet and gentle relationship (again for the first time in 4 years) and it genuinely felt really good. He was doing EVERYTHING I had been asking for in our years together. finally.

And after 6 months of contiuning to pour into my inner happiness, choose myself, and just worry about my own alignment (versus our relationship - even though it was going really well).

I was finally guided to breakup with him.

It wasn’t hard at all. It was so natural.

It just all came to a bubbling point where I couldn’t NOT breakup with him. I actually heard a voice in my head while I was washing dishes to do it that night and I did it the next morning!

But the thing is, I was energetically ready. I had filled up my own cup and felt really good! and not anxious!

And this method was great because I actually got to enjoy our relationship for the first time in 4 years. so it was literally a win/win….

And also he knew. But we were able to end on a good note versus a bad one.

We cried together for 1 day at my apartment and then I never saw him again and never felt “heart broken” from it.

** I do want to add in…confrontation IS fine, I am purely explaining how I got what I want out of life by having fun. I think confrontaiton is needed espeically if you want to work it out with someone. But you can still just have fun and get what you want lol and that can actually bring you into a place where confrontation maybe doesn’t even feel heavy or hard ya know? **

I really don’t believe we have to confront things we don’t like to *change* them. I don’t believe in the hard work route.

I believe when you focus on your inner alignment (which is feeling good + having fun) the Universe does ALL the heavy lifting.

You’ll be guided to break up with the person if you aren’t meant to be with them.

You’ll be guided out of the job if you’re not meant to stay.

But the thing is, it will all feel natural.

It won’t feel complex or chaotic.

Literally NOTHING bad happens when you just focus on your inner alignment to your relationship with: happiness + filling up your own cup with your genuine desires 🫖

Everytime I want to shift a circumstance I take my energy away from it and plug my focus back into filling up my own cup with my genuine desires.

So for ME personally that looks like:

🌀 Going to the gym and not touching my phone unless it’s to change the song. Like fully getting into my hot girl workouts.

💋 I will get ready, putting on makeup, putting on a cute outfit, and taking selfies.

🧞‍♀️ I will invest into a coach I want to work with or join a group program to bring my focus back into my soul gifts and what I am good at.

🔮 I will write write write.

🍭 I will read more fiction.

💎 I will reach out to a girlfriend to go get a drink and gossip

🎀 I will fully invest myself into a reality TV show

🍒 Commit myself to eating more comfort foods, cooking more (because I enjoy cooking), and overall just eating food that tastes good.

What I DON’T do to change a circumstance:

❌ applying discipline and “removing” things from my life.

❌ endless shadow work

❌ a lengthy tedious morning routine

❌ more meditation or more nervous system regulation

(regulating your nervous system shouldn’t be hard where you have to apply all these practices and tools)

❌ going on a diet or shifting the way I eat (unless it’s to program myself to eat more tasty, yummy, + fun food).

When you tap into your personal 🌀 vortex 🌀 you can change any circumstance and it’s always easy and feel good!!!!!!!!

and your 🌀 vortex 🌀 is simply figuring out WHAT your GENUINE desires are and engaging more with them + removing your focus AWAY from *problems* and *issues* and *struggles*.

the example I shared above is just ONE of ♾️ many many many ♾️ situations I have shifted.

Another example of how I have changed a “reality” by having fun:

In my 20s I always struggled with cystic acne on my face and back. Super super painful breakouts (if you know you know). It was constant and maybe it would clear for 1-2 weeks with the first list but it never stayed gone.

Anywho ~

What DIDN’T work for my acne:

❌ balancing my “hormones”

❌ elimination diet (removing sugar, removing dairy)

❌ detoxing my gut (intense intense intense protocols) it would clear my acne for about 2 weeks then it would go right back to the same thing

❌ creams, medication, skin care routine….

❌ being sober

❌ aligning with my monthy cycle and its phases

and I am telling ya….I tried EVERYTHING in the book to get rid of this CONSTANT CYSTIC ACNE. Everything you are told to do…removing dairy blah blag blah….eating in accordance to your cycle blah blah blah…eating ayruvedic blah blah blah…

trust me I tried everything lol

what DID work to FULLY rid my CONSTANT CYSTIC ACNE to have it NEVER appear again:

💖 ALLOWING myself to finally fully be loved by my man. Accepting his love and settling into it despite how *ugly* I felt… and like trusting his love for me…

💖 ALLOWING myself to drink again…and no I don’t mean like getting blacked out but like allowing myself to have a few and relax and feel good and have fun without feeling all weird or shameful around it.

💖 Eating whatever I want and just focusing in on what tastes good and realllllly eliminating any shame or guilt with food (this hoenstly took a couple years)

I just allowed myself to have fun again, to be loved, and let go….and what I “let go” with “letting go” was my constant acne.

I get a pimple here or there but I don’t have acne anymore and haven’t had a cystic pimple since I settled into fun and feeling good.

I can seriously write articles for DAYS on what I have shifted through tunning into my desires.

ALSO ~ REGULATING YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM SHOULDN’T HAVE TO BE HARD OR IMBEDDED WITH ALL THESE PRACTICES AND TOOLS! AND TRUST ME, I’VE BEEN AN EFT GIRLIE FOR YEARSSSSSSSSSSSS. LIKE EFT DAILY 4-6X A DAY…. I INVESTED A LOT INTO “REGULATING MY NERVOUS SYTEM” with money and time…

But I had this fucking revelation.

It’s not our fault we are senstive.

Why would God make it *hard* or embedded with practices for the sensitive girlies to regulate?

I kind of got to a point where I wanted to spend my time on OTHER fun things versus using all my time to try and regulate my nervous system 😒

Idk I just feel like it doesn’t need to cost money NOR time…

So anyways I had this revelation like…..if you are just knees deep in your desires you won’t even have a feeling to “Regulate your nervous system” because do what you love in life IS regulating….

Like if you are a senstive person you just need to channel your *sensitivity* into your art, into your creativity, and into your time you spend with your genuine desires.

and I BET you won’t feel a need to “regulate your nervous system all the time” 💖

!! THIS LIFE IS FOR LIVING + HAVING FUN. WHAT IS THE POINT IF WE ARE SPENDING ALL MORNING TRYING TO FUCKING REGULATE TO JUST HAVE A GOOD DAY? IT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE TO ME. WHY WOULD GOD DO THAT TO US? IT GETS TO BE FUN. IT GETS TO BE EASY. I BELIEVE LIFE IS REALLY JUST ABOUT FIGURING OUT WHAT YOU LIKE IN LIFE AND SPENDING MORE TIME WITH YOUR DAMN LIKES !!

IF YOU ARE A SENSTIVE IT’S A GIFT NOT A CURSE. WE JUST GOTTA FIGURE OUT THE WAYS TO CHANNEL THAT SENSITIVITY INTO SOMETHING SO WE AREN’T OVERLY SENSITIVE TO LIFE. AND THAT’S BY DOING WHAT FEELS FUN AND GOOD TO YOU PERSONALLY.

Don’t listen to anyone else.

Just do whatever the fuck feels good FOR YOU!

Even if my words don’t feel good for you, don’t fucking listen to me then!!!!!!!!

And if you are curious this is my “morning routine” and i don’t do it because i Feel like I need it, I do it because it’s genuinely fun for me and it feels good.

I make my coffee and get caffiene high

I journal a ton around: appreciation, what I am manifesting, and always refining and getting clear on my desires.

I write for you guys on 🤓 (lets be honest it’s really for me).

I meditate sometimes…usually only for 15-20 min whenever I feel like it.

I take a lot of walks with my dog

But the thing is, these are things I genuinely enjoy. If I hated journaling I wouldn’t do it.

feel me?

The only *discipline* I believe in:

💖 being disciplined around what I consume. No horror, no crime docs, no weird shit. and muting out a lot of people in my same field so I can always hear my inner being.

💖 being disciplined over the thoughts I choose to give focus to.

💖 being disciplined in saying “yes” or “no” and only saying yes if it’s a full body yes.

💖 being disciplined around WHAT or WHO I give my energy + time to. for example, I come first, then my family, then my paying clients, then everyone else. I have to honor this system or I will burnout.

💖 being disciplined over NOT complaining or falling into any type of victim trap

💖 being disciplined over consistently connecting with my desires and what I am calling in on a DAILY basis. full throttle *forward* thinking.

💖 and being disciplined around not focusing in on current reality to define jack shit.

Anyways, if you really fuck with what I share then I do offer a day of coaching with me called love accelerator (: I will help you with everything I basically explained above. And if not, I have sooooooo many FREE articles here that you can go through and read alone to transform your life. My offer is for those wanting my undivided attention. I block off my WHOLE DAY to purely see you and work with you and really just give you my all. Yesterday I did a love accelerator day with my client and she bought the session thinking she needed help with money and love stuff. But what ended up happening was i was able to clearly see what she truly desired in life and helped her claim the title as a writer instead. And showed her how owning this desire WILL bring in her into the money she is worthy of and how she will attract romantic love from this space. It’s $399 and I block 6 hours for us to chitty chat. Voice memo + text on telegram. DM me here, DM on IG (sammi.brice), or email me at: sammi.brice.artist@gmail.com if you want one (:

and that’s all for today 😁

In love + miracles,

Sammi

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